I love my teacher Vinny’s saying, “If you want to feel good about yourself, do things that you feel good about.” When I act in accordance with my core values, I feel good. When I don’t, I feel lousy. It’s that simple.
Fast forward to the present. If I’m considering whether a decision is in line with my core values, I can pay attention to how my body feels. It’s pretty much always right.
Deeply knowing you can do hard things is foundational for happiness and comes from – guess what? – a history of doing hard things and surviving. No one gets through life unscathed, nor should we want to, since it is the experience of struggle, failure and survival that teaches us to be brave and to have the courage to keep trying.