As it turns out, there is a big difference between wanting to do something and being willing to do it. Think about it. There are a lot of things that we want to do. So why is it that we don’t do most of them?
If we agree that the appropriate and wise response to suffering is compassion, then how about we give ourselves some?
Love comes from the genuine desire for yourself and the other to be free to become their best Self, possibly together or possibly apart.
If we trust that the universe is a benevolent place and that goodness is our basic nature, then it follows that goodness is my basic nature and yours, too.
With the forces of social media and reality TV fueling the fire by feeding us details about everyone else’s ‘perfect’ lives, no wonder we feel alone.
Western culture seems to be systematically set up to make us feel not good enough. When it comes to midlife sexuality, there is not enough therapy, plastic surgery, Botox or hormone replacement in the world to fix what’s ‘wrong.’
Without a doubt, what we learn as a child, both from our primary caregivers and from our early sexual experiences, profoundly shapes the way we relate to sex in the future.
I think most of life is a self-fulfilling prophecy. In other words, we create our own reality.
Like all things worth doing, waking up involves way more work than hiding in the dark.
As women, we are taught from a young age not to express anger and that we need to be sweet, nice and pretty. We are experts at holding resentment.
The brave work of self-awareness and self-discovery requires slowly recognizing and peeling off the protective layers that have been added to hide your authentic self and shield you from danger.
If you approach people with openness, trust and love, you will receive openness, trust and love back (not always, but usually).