What if I told you that you could have the best sex of your life after 45, or even after 65? You’d likely be skeptical, since this is probably not your experience or what you have been taught. But it turns out that what we have been taught about mature female sexuality simply isn’t true.
After 20 years as a gynecologist, I was accustomed to hearing women over 45 struggle with decreased libido and accepting it as “normal.” But something told me there must be another option, so I set out on a mission to find it. My research led me to the “Sexually Woke” – a group of women over 45 who have discovered the “secrets” to a vibrant, connected sex life in midlife and beyond. Now you can wake up, too. Your most intimate and fulfilling sex life awaits you.
“It roared in our youth, was explored, celebrated, coveted, dressed up, and unleashed! Decades later, under a pile of obligations, wonky hormones, possible hurt and simply not giving a flip, it’s barely a whisper. Dr. Susan unravels the mystery behind the sexually woke, and not only grants you permission to dive to the depths of your desires but so gracefully illustrates why we need to go there in the first place.”
“This book provides real, candid honesty and hope-filled answers to questions my clients have been asking me for years about midlife sexuality and relationships. You will laugh and cry at some of the stories and feel more empowered to talk to your health care team about struggles you’re experiencing in your sex life. A must-read for women and men who value deep, intimate, and honest connection for themselves and their partners. Age should not prevent you from living and celebrating your sexual self.”
Mary Jo Rapini
“An encouraging, readable book about things that matter… the kind of book that can help get someone through a hard place in life, not to mention help solve what seems like an insoluble problem for anyone struggling with sexuality after menopause. What a gift to the world.”
Alexis Glynn Latner
“Dr. Susan has blazed a much-needed trail by tackling topics women face univerally: navigating midlife, communicating honestly and openly, dealing with the chatter in our heads, understanding how life events shape us and valuing ourselves for who we are.”
“This book gives real, shockingly honest, and hope-filled answers to the questions my patients have been asking for years about midlife sexuality and relationships. A must read for women who value deep, intimate connections regardless of age… and for their partners.”
Dr. Sara Jurney
“Dr. Hardwick-Smith’s coaching has helped me take a step back and reflect, and to look at all of my accomplishments personally and in business. I feel more able to sit and appreciate and be grateful, instead of always feeling “not enough”. Her coaching showed me how to really take the time to think about what’s been holding me back in certain areas and how to put a plan together, and take action steps to pursue the changes that I want to put into place.”.
“Our sexual being is a huge part of our complete, authentic self. Cutting off part of ourselves, by definition, limits us from reaching our full potential. And at the risk of over-dramatization, reaching our full potential seems to be the purpose of life.”
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Without a doubt, what we learn as a child, both from our primary caregivers and from our early sexual experiences, profoundly shapes the way we relate to sex in the future.
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