Almost all of us wish for more fulfilling relationships. But are we willing to do what it takes to change? With the wisdom earned in midlife, we can finally wake up to the realization that great relationships are not made by fixing other people- they are made by learning to know and love ourselves, and letting go of the need to control others. Perhaps the most important lesson that I learned from my research as well as from 20 years as a gynecologist and my own experience as a wife, mother, sister, coworker and friend is this:

You can’ t really connect with someone else as your true, authentic Self until you know who that is.

At last, in midlife, we have a moment to focus on ourselves after years of serving the agendas of others. Only when we truly know ourselves are we able to be fully present to connect with others. Improving our ability to connect deeply and honestly with others through compassionate self-awareness is one of the most important “secrets” to lifelong happiness. By deeply understanding that we can’t “fix” anyone else, and that healthy and fulfilling relationships start with you, we become empowered and responsible instead of feeling like a victim. We put ourselves in prisons but forget that we hold the key.

If you are ready to have deeper, more fulfilling relationships, including a more satisfying, primary, intimate, and sexual relationship, let’s connect!